Habitually we think of something external to ourselves that will give us the happiness we dream of: more money, a better car or house, a vacation. However, our desire for external objects of gratification ultimately will never be sated. Our wanting will never end. Sought after this way, happiness will always elude us. But we can go deeper than this. Perhaps we need to pay attention to the wanter.
So how can we cultivate these qualities without going to that tropical isle of our dreams? We could come home, come home to ourselves. Rather than always focusing outward, we can cultivate ways of just being with ourselves. We can find a sense of spaciousness, relaxation and warmth within us, wherever we are, whatever we are doing.